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It was easier than I’d imagined

This had been a long time coming.

10 days ago, I removed the Instagram app from my phone. This wasn’t anything new, to be honest. I’d done these kind of detoxes multiple times before.

Removing the app every weekend was one habit I developed to break the need for me to check it.

In fact, through March 2020, I even ran the ‘How to break up with your phone’ challenge, based on Catherine Price’s book by the same name.

Then, I went cold turkey for a week in June. …


What happens when you create outside the limelight

Woman holding a bunch of flowers obscuring her face
Woman holding a bunch of flowers obscuring her face

J.D. Salinger, Edgar Allan Poe, William Faulkner, Marcel Proust, Aravind Adiga, Ruskin Bond, Bill Watterson — what do all of these people have in common?

  1. They were/are prolific creators and artists in their own right
  2. They guarded their right to privacy and the need to create their art in seclusion

As someone who created outside the limelight for the first 6 years of her blogging career and was then creating with an audience over the next 7 years, it’s almost as if life has come full circle again.

Maybe it’s age or perhaps it’s the jaded feeling I have in…


Try these simple reframing exercises

If you were asked to write every day and you find it a chore or perhaps boring, would you do it? Of course not. In fact, you’d do everything in your power to not do it. It’s a human instinct; we avoid the hard things, the boring things and the things that don’t give us joy.

So how do you get a place where you create something consistently without finding it boring?

Here are two tips that I can share

TIP 1- Find the Joy even in the Mundane

The task can be boring; we can’t change that. But you know what we can change? …


You’ll never get to the end of that list

I spent the better part of yesterday cleaning up my list of bookmarks/ saved articles on Medium. Ever since I became active on the platform last July, I managed to bookmark over 450 articles to ‘read later.’

Guess how many of them I actually managed to read, absorb and implement: around 25.

You’ve heard of Tsundoku, right? It’s the Japanese term for collecting so many books that you leave unread.

Tsundoku is the condition of acquiring reading materials but letting them pile up in one’s home without reading them.

Buying books does not equal reading books. We all know that…


It’s absolutely imperative that you get it every day

Last night I went to bed with a fresh perspective. This could be due to the fact that I’ve gone 21 days without my social media channels or it could just be some sort of awareness now that my mind has space to breathe.

Why do we need to:

  • Switch off screens at a certain time every night?
  • Limit our consumption of content to a reasonable amount?
  • Ask ourselves the question- is this really worth posting online?

And the answers that emerged were all tied in with an overarching response:

Because we were not put on this earth to be…


Learn to listen to what’s really important

“Let your work speak for itself:
If poor, it will remain silent.
If average, it will whisper.
If good, it will talk.
If great, it will shout.
If genius, it will sing.”

Matshona Dhliwayo

It was the year 2007. June 24th, to be precise.

That was the day I idly scrolled to a browser, clicked on a social network (Facebook) opened it up and created an account. That was the beginning of my journey on social media. …


Why people respond to the right tone, even in marketing

There’s a person I know of, in my circle. He’s a trusted colleague and long-time friend of my husband. When he speaks, his voice remains at an even keel. It’s always gentle, soft, and never rises beyond a certain decibel level.

I’m serious. His voice doesn’t seem to be aware that other volume levels actually exist. Contrast this with me who was a silent person most of her life and then evolved into a shrieking banshee when I became a mom.

Two extremes and sometimes I honestly wonder if the maternity gene creates a mutation effect.


This is just two weeks after I changed one thing in my day

A little over two weeks ago, I embarked on an experiment- A 60-day sabbatical from social media, especially as a business owner. Before the sabbatical began, this is how my brain looked on any working day.

Can you imagine that? Waking up every day wondering which of those things I needed to focus on first — the stress alone is enough to make you feel overwhelmed.

These days, when I wake up, the first thought is- ‘How can I make this day matter?’ And I don’t mean that in the sense of productivity or achievement. …


It doesn’t have to be super fancy either

Some of you may be familiar with my content here on Medium. I usually write about content, creativity, authentic engagement, and productivity. There are many tools that I use in my business to help streamline my work.

From Google Keep, which I use for notetaking, Google Sheets, which I use for tracking data and to Google Docs which I use to create and back up all of my written content, all of these are pretty indispensable. You’re noticing a pattern, I can tell. Yes, I am a die-hard fan of all things Google.

*Speaking of Google Sheets, you should really…


And it’s only been 10 days

Today is officially day 11 of my 60-day sabbatical from social media and I am frankly stunned by the abundance of time on my hands. I never really realized how much more I could possibly do if I were to change just one tiny thing about my working days.

I just stopped checking social media

As a social media coach, I maintain (or used to maintain) an active presence on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. I bid Twitter goodbye a couple of months ago, otherwise, that would have been in the mix as well.

And then towards the end of May…

Shailaja V

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